DOMA Defeated! Happiness.

ImageThe court rulings this week that DOMA and Prop 8 are unconstitutional bring me great joy. It isn’t the end of the battle for me, but in the long run, I hope it means easier fights in the future. The right to marry anyone you desire, regardless of gender, is a big step towards full equality, but until the federal government recognizes same sex marriage as federally binding (my partner is Canadian and can’t get a spouse visa under current provisions) the battle won’t be won for me. Of course I’m aware of all of the arguments as to why that might never happen, but yeah, that’s what I’m really waiting for (and I’ll likely continue to live abroad until it can happen).

So, yes, I’m excited about the repeal of those bills, but that’s not what this post is about.

As I head into my 20th straight day of work over here, I’ve been feeling strangely happier and happier. For those that don’t know, I teach English full time (6 days a week) at a language house in Japan, to students ranging anywhere from 16 months to 80 years old. I’ve never felt so good about the work I do for money. The kids are a dream, and it’s so great to see them developing and growing as people and my adults sharing more and more about themselves during class.

I’m not really sure why that feeling fell upon me during such a stressful time, but it has given me pause to contemplate what I really like about my life. I thought I’d share a few of those things here.

  1. My job is to basically play all day. I have complete control over the curriculum and my work load; I’m basically my own boss, except someone else deals with all of the paperwork. When I’m not teaching I can totally surf the net or write and my boss doesn’t care.
  2. My students (young and old) are an endless source of inspiration.
  3. I get to work with my girlfriend -AND- we function well as a team. How cool is that?
  4. I don’t make a lot of money, but I make enough to live a comfortable lifestyle.
  5. I live with my girlfriend in Japan (for four years). Talk about a setting.
  6. I -can- live my girlfriend, despite us being of different nationalities, and having lived in different countries for the first seven years we knew each other.
  7. My relationship is understanding, intellectual, playful, inspiring and calm. We can and do talk about everything.
  8. My house is freaking awesome.
  9. I don’t have a lot of time off, but I have enough time off to write.
  10. I have a great group of friends who astound me with their own love of life and their achievements.

Of course, there are things I don’t like about my life too, but the point is, I guess, I have somehow landed into a situation where I have the means to change what I don’t like, and to continue working towards that elusive ‘Better Me.’

What are some of the things in your life that really make you happy? What are some things that you’ve forgotten make you happy, or you haven’t really stopped to appreciate lately?

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